Recently I have been experimenting with a new approach to life and work – letting go of my agenda. This has been somewhat counter intuitive as an entrepreneur and, honestly, I’m still figuring out the practical implications.
Much of it though, has to do with listening – both inwardly and outwardly. A few weeks ago I spoke with Hari Kaur who highlighted an interesting way of listening to the micro and macro truth in a situation. There is the micro truth that we often listen for, the truth of what a person is saying in the moment. And then there is the broader truth of the full situation. That person’s history, where they are coming from, what they’re dealing with.
That macro truth is where I often find my compassion and empathy. It’s where I have to really look past my agenda – what I want and how I see the world – to listen with my full being. That kind of listening is where I’ve learned (and am continuously learning) to accept people as they are – and, in turn, myself as I am.
Hari shares one of her favorite prayers, the Hawaiian Ho’oponopono:
I love you
Please forgive me
“When we repeat these words to ourselves, our listening can become more sensitive and more willing to let somebody make a mistake or not represent themselves perfectly.” – Hari Kaur
Hari has been a close friend and mentor for years. She is a world renowned legacy teacher of Kundalini Yoga and meditation and has been teaching for almost 30 years. She worked alongside Yogi Bhajan directing his teacher training programs for 10 years and is part of the first wave of yoga teachers that pioneered the teaching of Kundalini yoga and meditation in the west. She’s written two books, a Woman’s Book of Meditation and a Woman’s Book of Yoga, and has created one of the most popular courses on Sutra, the Illumined Woman, with a vision to empower women at all stages of life.
In this podcast we explore a variety of subjects, from how she met Yogi Bhajan to the challenges of community and how she deals with tricky group situations. Hari shares her profound wisdom on listening, humility, and gratitude. If you enjoy the discussion, please checkout her upcoming online women’s meditation course launching on May 14th, or stop by her studio in New York City.